So you’re now single or with someone new. But you can’t get your ex girlfriend out of your brain. You’re always thinking “how to get my ex girlfriend to love me again?” And then you probably push the thought away because it seems unattainable. The good news is that you can get your ex girlfriend back in your arms. It has been done before and it can be done again, by you!
Men and women get out of relationships for diverse reasons, many of which are not understood by the opposite sex because men’s and women’s brains are wired differently. This makes things even more puzzling. Some situations seem to be pretty clear-cut but, most are not.
So before we embark upon your goal of getting your ex girlfriend back, let’s take a look at why she isn’t with you in the first place.
Why do men leave relationships? It’s pretty simple, really. They leave when they aren’t getting what they require. And one sure thing that they need is admiration and respect. It might be for that reason that they left . . . and maybe they found it somewhere else. One of the most frequent reasons men give for leaving their wife or girlfriend is “No matter what I did, I couldn’t make her happy!”
Why do women leave relationships? They leave because they feel unappreciated and/or they leave because they are fed up. What do you commonly hear from unhappy women? “He doesn’t appreciate a thing I do!”
Now, you might think that your ex girlfriend’s reasons for going don’t fit into one of those categories. You may be thinking, “My girlfriend left me because I cheated on her.” But why did you cheat on her in the first place? It probably has something to do with the fact that you weren’t getting the attention and appreciation you needed. Or maybe you’re thinking . . . although that’s not an excuse. Or maybe you’re thinking “My girlfriend left me because I was never around.” But ask yourself, why were you never around?
Now that you’re not in constant contact with your ex girlfriend, you can take time to look at the situation more impartially. Use this time constructively to list all the positive and negative factors in your relationship. In the meantime, make sure you take care of yourself, eat healthy foods and exercise when possible.
Then, after you’ve had time to concentrate on yourself and look at your relationship with more objective eyes, you can think about making that first contact with your ex. Ask her out for coffee in a relaxed manner. If she says yes, go out, talk about light non-threatening subjects and keep it short. At the end of the date, don’t re-schedule another unless your ex girlfriend suggests it.
The date may be successful, the date may go ok or the date may go terribly. In the last case, you’ll need to re-evaluate your situation and see if you want to continue trying later on or if you need to think about moving on.
But if the date goes well, you will see how the answer to “how to get my ex girlfriend to love me again?” is application and a great strategy!