If you’ve been dumped, it may well feel like the end of the world. You may be wallowing in self-pity, unable to face the world and generally feeling sorry for yourself. How do you get over a broken heart and get yourself to that place where you’re ready to face the world and do it all again?
Well firstly, realise that although the situation feels painful, it isn’t fatal and you are going to get through this. You survived before you ever met this person and you will survive again without them. If a relationship is not meant to be, then it’s not going to be, so try and see that this is for your good. You’re meant to move on and meet someone else and when you meet that person, you will see very well with hindsight why this particular relationship didn’t work.
Try to come to terms with your negative emotions. You can get over a broken heart. Yes, rejection can be painful, but it doesn’t mean that you have to hide away. If you want to wallow for a while then do so. If it helps, really feel your hurt and pain as this will help them to heal quicker.
When you are at your most miserable you will probably want to spend most time with those who love you, but try not to overburden them with your misery and problems. You could get some counselling if you feel you can’t cope or need further help to get over your heartbreak.
When you are ready to get out and about again, walk tall and face the world. Now that you are on your own you will have some time free, so you have plenty of opportunities to rebuild a better, more fulfilling life. You have time to see family, rekindle friendships and learn new skills. You can look at how to improve your future relationships. Or you can take up a new hobby to help you become a more interesting person. Or you can get out and meet new people. By keeping busy, you will help to fade those memories of your ex and help to bring back your own happiness and sunny personality.
Try to use your break up as a learning experience. Try to work out what went wrong in your relationship as it will help you to avoid this for next time around. Many people are not naturally good at getting relationships off the ground and it does help to know what works with the opposite sex and what mistakes you might have made that contributed to your break up. There is plenty of information out there on this topic and it really can help you.
When you have got through this experience, you will have grown and become a fuller, happier person. If you have taken this advice, you will have more confidence and be more interesting and magnetic. You are then in a position to meet someone new or you may even be able rekindle the relationship that you have lost. You can get over a broken heart and you will feel ready to face the world again.