Every marriage goes through several rough patches but the good news is that people do not always walk out of their marriages, no matter how hard they find to continue. Therefore, if you feel that your marriage is nearing its end, you should not be hopeless and presume that divorce is on its way. There are several things which you can do singly, or in conjunction with your spouse to save your marriage.
Every marriage stands on four pillars: love, respect, trust and honesty. Intimacy, romance, belonging, dependence and all other factors which seem important are actually derivatives of these four important pillars. When one pillar goes weak, the marriage starts to develop cracks, which if not repaired in time, can develop into gaping holes resulting in the marriage to fall apart.
It is also true that a marriage can get into troubled waters over extremely trivial issues. To save your marriage, if you think that the issues involved are extremely small and insignificant, one of you have to take the ‘adult and mature’ role to put an end to many of the misunderstandings. Trust open and fearless communication to do the major part of the job of reunification and save your marriage.
From the above, it is clear that unless you pinpoint the issues which are troubling the relationship, it is impossible to save your marriage. This is because your efforts can never be channeled in the right direction, unless you know what the problems are and why they are caused.
Boredom, predictability, lack of variety, too much external influence, inadequate finances, stubbornness of one of the partners, egotism, physical and mental incompatibilities are only a few of the common reasons why marriages hit the bottom. Interestingly, many of these problems can be solved by mutual cooperation and frank communication. Trust the power of communication, without blaming, accusing or mud slinging, to solve several inter-personal conflicts in a marriage. To save your marriage, you too should first take help from communication.
Finally, a marriage is like an ever-growing plant that needs constant nourishment in the form of love, giving and forgiving for it to grow. Though most of us have given a bad name to the concept of ‘compromise’ – no marriage can ever survive unless partners ‘compromise’. Only the degree may differ from one couple to another. Hence to save your marriage, perhaps you could do well, if you focused on such internal developments before you take any step to repair any damage caused by external factors.