Cheating on your wife during the holidays can be brutal in more ways than you realize. Not only does it put your marriage in serious risk but it also serves to undermine your wife’s faith in you as her husband and herself as your wife. In other words it’s definitely a two-edged sword and the reach can be lethal for the sake of your marriage.
So, how can you make your Christmas wishes for your marriage come true when you’ve cheated on your wife and put them all at risk? It isn’t nearly as difficult as you’ve been led to believe all these years. These three steps will get you off to an excellent start.
Begin with the basics. The first thing you need to do is apologize to your wife. Your apology needs to be sincere and heartfelt and not a quickie “I’m sorry” sort of apology. It really needs to be appropriate for the full impact it can have on your marriage. If you feel you might not be able to get it right or might get drawn off course if you talk to her about it, then put it in writing. A hand-written apology will carry a great deal of weight and will allow you to get everything off your chest without getting tongue tied. It also gives you a chance to step back and re-read everything before you give it to her so that you can make sure there is nothing in the apology letter that could be taken badly by your wife.
Move on to trying to win her heart all over again. You’ve done it once before. Now is your chance to do it all over again. The good news is that you know your wife even better now than you did the first time around. Use what you know to woo her even better this time and enjoy brilliant results from your efforts.
Tell your wife just how much you need her in your life. You know you need her. You know how much better she makes your life but when is the last time you told her that you need her? How long has it been since you’ve made your wife feel loved and wanted? If you want to make your Christmas wishes for a happily ever after come true then you’re going to have to make her feel wanted and secure in your love for her and her alone all over again.