Skidding to a Stop in a Bad Relationship

If your relationship is getting worse with every day that passes, and you have tried to fix it, you may want to stop the relationship and just move on. But how do you end a relationship that quickly? Well, depending on your commitment level and situation it can vary. But the fact is that you should not stay in a bad relationship for any reason.

There are different ways to stop the relationship depending on what kind of relationship you are in.

If you are in an abusive relationship, either mentally or physically, then chances are your partner has some sort of ‘power’ over you, or they think they do. It may be hard to leave them for fear of what will happen. In this case, you need to make a plan of action so you know exactly what you are going to do so you don’t get caught leaving and end up more abused and stuck in the same situation.

Make a plan of when you will leave, what you will take, how you will go, where you will go, and what you will do after you get there. The more detailed the plan, the better it will go for you.

If you are in an unhappy relationship without kids, marriage, or huge investments like a house, then you are in the best position to leave. Tell your partner why you are unhappy and that you are ready to move on from the relationship. Do not leave without telling them because they will spend time hunting you down and obsessing over it, and in the long run that is worse than staying in the relationship.

Remember you reasons for leaving – which boil down to a bad relationship, and do not let them convince you that they will change. You need to see some sort of action that they will change before you should believe them. Just leave and move on with your life.

Don’t give them hope by talking to them, answering their calls, or talking about them to their friends. Just cut contact and move on.

If you are married, have kids, or other huge commitments together, then you can’t just up and leave. But you can still end the bad part of the relationship. You will want to have your stuff in order before you leave or you will have months, or years, of suffering and fights. Plan what you want to do with the kids, or house, or divorce. Know the steps you need to take first, then let your partner know you want out and this is the plan you have in place for your shared commitments.

While you may just want to leave quickly out of a committed relationship, you can’t. You made those commitments and you have to follow through with them. But you do not have to stay in a bad relationship because of them. That’s not healthy for anyone involved.

SABUNG AYAM